The first sex of a virgin guy, what to do on the first night, how to behave

For a girl, sexual intercourse with a chaste young man also has the character of something unique, because it is this sex that he will remember for the rest of his life.

There is a stereotype in society that a guy who has not slept with a woman before the age of 18-20 is a loser or out of this world. But there are young people who never parted with innocence until the age of 30. If you have such a happy ticket (or life test) in your life - to deprive a guy of virginity, you will have to work hard so as not to frighten off an already stressed comrade. So, he's having his first sex, and you're his first woman. What to do with him if a guy has sex for the first time, how to introduce him into the world of a big and tasty "cupcake" without problems and psychological trauma? Let's try to understand all the intricacies of the psychology and physiology of innocent young men.

Girls do not hide their inexperience in sexual life, being a virgin is still appreciated. But with men, everything is different: lack of experience in bed is considered a disadvantage. The guys themselves are embarrassed of this, which is why the complexes grow, which every year are more and more difficult to eliminate - they are overgrown with new stereotypes and fears. Let's find out how to determine if a guy had sex or if you have to deprive him of his innocence.

Let's just say that men do not have physical signs of virginity, like a girl (hymen). All symptoms are exclusively secondary. In general, a girl will be able to determine his inexperience only with the help of indirect signs that are usually noticeable in his behavior. The following points will be special markers.

Focus on intimacy. He constantly talks about sex, tries in every possible way to prove himself as a very preoccupied and sexually active man. Vulgar phrases are thrown everywhere and even where it is inappropriate. It seems that the boy has reviewed porn. Sort of like Beavis and Butthet. You are tormented by hearing about his "victories" and "adventures". In his fairy tales, he fucked all the girls in the area, and they all ended up with him 100 times - a sexual giant, not otherwise.

Shyness and stiffness. There are, on the contrary, very squeezed young men. He, of course, is tormented by thoughts about sex, and a desire in the form of strong risers all day long, but he doesn’t know how to bring things to bed. And to tell a girl that he wants her, the tongue does not turn precisely because of inexperience and fear of screwing up.

If you touch on the topic of sex, some special caresses and techniques used in the process, preferences, the guy will be embarrassed or will respond inappropriately. It is very noticeable that the comrade is clearly not in the subject, well, or only theoretically savvy.

Kisses, light touches on the body during hugs cause embarrassment in the modest. As a rule, such caresses are rare and abruptly completed.

When it comes to exposing the perineum, you will notice that when caressing, he behaves ineptly, psychological clamps are felt, expressed in physical awkwardness. This can even pull on a condom, turning away.

There are boys who honestly admit that they are having sex for the first time, but they are few. In a personal conversation to give out such a secret? It is tantamount to admitting one's failure as a male! As you can see, the main criterion is only behavior. The most timid can run away, especially if the beginning is unsuccessful (the member did not get up, he finished quickly, etc.) For some you can’t determine at all - they are well encrypted.

There are cunning individuals among young men who deliberately pretend to be virgins in order to arouse either pity on the part of their partner, or special attention, which clearly excites them. Such every girl says that she is his first.

And yet, virgin guys are very shy and are in no hurry to move on to intimacy. Many, on the contrary, seem to be trying to delay this moment. You take the initiative in your own hands, and he rests and does not go to your tricks! You will have to work with this one, otherwise he will not have the best impression.

Keep in mind that inexperienced youngsters are not able to control ejaculation for the first 20-30 times, so sexual intercourse will not last as long as you would like. If you don't want kids, use protection. Some get very excited and cannot cum, or the erection disappears altogether. Be ready to reassure, suggest what to do. Here they are, virgin boys!

Advice for those who really need to know if a guy is a virgin or not. Tell him that your dream is to be the first with a man who has not been kissed below the belt. You so want to have sex with a young man who has not yet had a single woman, which is downright unbearable! Tell me how much the thought of innocence and inexperience turns you on. Most likely, with certain feelings for you, the guy will untie his tongue.

There are dozens of myths about innocent youths about their illiquidity. For some reason, it is generally accepted that only outwardly unattractive wanker boys - nerds and sissies - are not capable of losing their virginity before the age of 20. What else do young girls think men who did not have time to sleep with a woman by this age?

They always live with their mother, sister, grandmother and cats in a creepy hut with a bunch of Soviet carpets.

One hundred percent they are afraid of girls or generally prefer same-sex relationships.

They are stupid, uninteresting for communication, closed and just nerds with greetings.

Such people do not know about sex, are not interested in it, and do not even want to.

They wear thick glasses, have greasy hair, grow a thick belly, stink of sweat, and are covered in pimples.

Their attire includes short trousers with rips à la "goodbye youth" with a frayed strap, a striped polo shirt with buttons and a collar, carefully tucked into these trousers, socks and sandals over them.

These are the conclusions that prevail in the female head about overripe male virgins. They are psychos, hello, defective and just freaks. It is clear that not every girl excites male innocence, and sex without bummers will not happen immediately, but a guy’s chastity is not always his shortcoming and a sign of lack of demand! Quite often, on the contrary, it is nothing more than a consequence of his masculine and purely human virtues!

Psychologists believe that a guy who has never had sex may belong to one of the following types.

Completely green. In the first case, we are talking about 15-16-year-old teenagers who experience the "pranks" of hormones and are not always able to control their behavior. As a rule, they create the image of a bad boy, an impregnable "macho", trying to please the girls. Behind the mask is a shy guy who is afraid to admit his virginity.

The second option is believing religious young men, the very first sex with whom is possible only after marriage, wedding, etc. No persuasion can convince such guys, even if their desire overshadows their minds. They are in search of that one and only, who will live with them according to the laws of faith.

The next type of young people is a category of "losers". These are guys with a failed love affair in the past, resentment against the fair sex. Such males more often than others get hung up on their failures and complexes.

Those who are too shy also run the risk of wasting their time. Ideally, the girl herself should roll up to these and spin it for the first sexual experience, but in our society the opinion is ruled that the man takes the initiative first. And these indecisive boys are immediately automatically included in the list of nurses and wankers, because virginity is “glued” to them forever.

The always busy guy who has time for everything except the first sex. Such young people are insane workaholics, travelers, athletes, students, etc. They deliberately avoid the opportunity to be alone with their partner, inventing urgent matters and regular problems.

There is another kind of innocent chick - an outsider with a low sexual need. A modest guy often does not have a very high sexual temperament, and, as a result, a double barrier is obtained: a renegade from childhood, who, by his nature, does not really need to climb into his underpants to a pretty young lady.

Mother's son. This is such a complex type of virgin that it is better not to take on him. Beloved mother from the cradle protected the hungry females of her eagle from the predatory claws! She didn’t raise him for that, so that some kind of professional net would grab such a treasure! This “eagle” has long been taught that a woman is evil, and accordingly, sex is even more dirty, because they manipulate it. To be honest, a dead number - to make a real male out of such a "skirt".

Not every guy who has never had sex with a girl is ready to openly talk about it. But if a young man admits to the lack of experience of intimate relationships, it is important that the girl behaves competently. No need to focus, because he can have a lot of complexes about this. It is necessary to let the young man understand that his skills and abilities in bed are not important to the partner, in any case she will be fine with him.

If a guy has sex for the first time with a woman who has a richer intimate experience, she should behave correctly with him.

First of all, remember the golden rule of behavior with a virgin man - do not show all the delights of sexual life from the first minutes! He is afraid that he will not pull such a load. Develop his fears about the upcoming possible failures and gradually proceed to sexual liberation!

No need to play the "queen of carnal pleasures" from yourself. It is desirable to behave on an equal footing with a young man, to give him the opportunity to open up and show initiative. Otherwise, he will get used to the leading role of the lady, and will always wait for "weather from the sea." For starters, you can give him an introductory course in female physiology.

Don't take the guy too seriously. He was already preparing for the first sex, reading books, in search of an answer, what and how to do it right. Surely, the young man is worried and worried, so it does not hurt to dilute his tension and relieve stiffness in a playful way.

A little alcohol never hurts. Literally a couple of glasses of light champagne or dessert wine will give strength and relax a young man. But there is no need to insist on drinking if he has a categorical attitude towards alcohol.

Be careful with teachings. So that the guy during the first sex does not feel like a "loser", and his partner - "Marvanna", there is no need to read out a list of his subsequent actions every second. Over time, the young man will gain experience and he will understand what his beloved likes and what does not.

Never compare him with other men - this hurts male pride in the strongest way. You would also not like to hear that that Anka's ass is more elastic, and she swings it more intensively.

Don't forget praise. You don’t need to shower compliments in bed, especially if it’s flattery. But when getting pleasure, a girl should focus on her partner: “Yes”, “Like this”, “Good”, “More”, etc. This will help the guy to believe in himself during the first sex.

When a guy has sex for the first time, he is most afraid of doing something wrong, seeming ridiculous and negligent. You joke, and the person will think that you are mocking him. Better without jokes and light satire.

Let the boy undress you by himself, let him get to know your body. Then you undress him. Be sure to make compliments at the same time, because at this moment the main fear of a virgin is not to please his partner. He feels ridiculous and ridiculous, perhaps even ashamed, so you need to strengthen his faith in himself and his sexuality a little.

You should not immediately sharpen the young man for your favorite poses that you have worked out with experienced males for a long time. Exotic will be later, when the kid will figure out what's what in sex. For a first try, the classic "missionary sandwich" is a simple, ideal option.