What do men who do not want to protect themselves say?

Irresponsible individuals for whom momentary pleasure is more important than any consequences, instead of spending 2 seconds pulling on a rubber product. Engage in verbal arguments and try to pressure women in a variety of ways, including blackmail, incitement, gross flattery, and threats. So that they ask for a salary increase as convincingly as they ask their partners to forget about their health!

Let's start with the misers and poor students - 2% of the survey participants had a chance to meet a man for whom the wallet is in the first place. So the phrase “Condoms are expensive, where do I get so much money from” was heard by 88 readers. “The icing on the cake” seems to us the following passage: “I bought wine, stockings for you. A complete gentleman's kit, condoms are not included!”

Fatalists, who are convinced that “it doesn’t matter” that condoms break, “do not save”, “slide” (1%), turned out to be slightly less than boasters “with too much that nothing fits on” (3%) and leaders sex marathon, promising partners that they will get tired of waiting for his orgasm (2%), and latex intolerant allergy sufferers (2%).

3% of girls are familiar with truants and losers, who were definitely not in anatomy lessons, convinced that “nothing happens at once!”. True, the "ideological" man, who believed that "it is better to fly than a condom," went to only one.

It is sad, of course, that some men have problems with potency. Here are the mythical "features of the body", because of which they cannot have sex in a condom (6%), and the lack of courage, which disappears in just a couple of seconds (3%), and the inability to get an orgasm (4%).

But it is much sadder that many representatives of the strong half of humanity do not hesitate to engage in blackmail.

"What, you don't trust me?" - “offended” by manipulators (7% communicated with such “psychologically savvy” . Some know how to put pressure with special cynicism: “Rubber bands are needed only with prostitutes.

Another "masterpiece" on this topic: "You are my girl, and I must feel you!". It is clear that the question of who owes money and why remains open. “No, well, if you insist so!” - say some and wait for the girl to start objecting.

"Don't be afraid, I've only slept with married people before you!" - someone else makes fun of women's logic?

Looking at the results of the survey, willy-nilly, you will wonder if the saying that men love with their eyes is true! After all, condoms “tinder”, “tighten”, “rustle”, “smell of burnt rubber”, “reduce the sharpness of sensations” and even “deprive of heat”.

“I always use protection, but I don’t want to be with you, you are special!” - another 7% of our respondents found themselves in a situation where men tried to influence them with flattery. 12% listened to the sacramental promise "I'll make it!" and auto-training "I control myself, I have everything under control."

Alas, only 10 (!) people noted that their partner voiced a reluctance to use condoms because he had matured to children.

All men are different, and the motives for refusal may be different. However, in my observation, as a rule, those who do this can be classified into one of three groups.

The first is infantile children who are preoccupied with their pleasure, do not realize that with unprotected sexual intercourse you can be a carrier of sexually transmitted diseases, you can get them from a woman. Their judgments on this subject are superficial. They are irresponsible, and one might even say so, somewhat sexually incompetent. There are quite a lot of them, they are spawned by a consumer society, single-parent families, and the lack of an image of a reliable father.

The second group, unfortunately, there are fewer of them now - these are responsible men, with a capital letter. Only those who don't speak. And this is also a disadvantage. After all, even if a man, having learned about pregnancy, will be delighted, if he has been making plans for a long time, how he and his beloved will live happily ever after, why doesn’t he tell her about it before? After all, a family is a team. And what kind of team is this if such important issues are not discussed?

There is also a third group. Such men have appeared in the last ten years. It's no secret that fertility problems are on the rise. The Ministry of Health, which warns, for some reason, few people listen. Bad habits are becoming the norm. Some of my patients sometimes admit that they do not use protection because they are not sure if they are able to conceive with this woman. In order not to reassure, they do not promise her anything, nevertheless they are ready to solve life's issues as they arise. And only after conception go to the registry office. Such is the pragmatism inspired by harsh realities.

Also, such behavior may indicate problems with potency, when a man is embarrassed to seek help from a sexologist and instead tries not to use condoms. His partner's pregnancy worries him less than his own erection. For example, in sexual failure anxiety syndrome, the patient is sometimes so obsessed with his erection that everything else fades into the background. The irony is that the more he оbsessed with press the idea, “to make it work”, the more likely it is that he will not succeed. In these cases, the help of a sexologist is needed.