What's wrong with me: how to prolong sex and not cum in a minute?

"Sex should be practiced not only for the sake of conceiving children, but also for the sake of maintaining relationships" The topic is acute: according to WHO, the problem of premature ejaculation affects from 5 to 45% of men of different ages worldwide.

It is necessary to distinguish: premature ejaculation is a disorder of sexual function, that is a diagnosis that can be made only by a urologist and only on the basis of clinical examinations. However, almost every man has faced this problem at least once. If the urologist does not sound the alarm, then you need to work in the other direction.

A large-scale study involving 500 men found that most ejaculate within a few minutes, and the average intercourse time is 4-5 minutes. The problem is that a partner usually needs at least twice as long to have an orgasm. Therefore, men are looking for ways to help them last a little longer in bed.

Men are easier: orgasm is deeply embedded and tamped at the level of instincts. In women, everything is ruled by the limbic system - that is, emotions. Therefore, if a man is attacked by a predator during sexual intercourse, he will run away, orgasming on the way. And if a woman at the moment of climax remembers the escaped coffee or the unfinished annual report, there will be no orgasm. Therefore, at the stage of foreplay it is important to work not only with the woman's body, but also with her brain - to probe the right mood, to take into account the situation.

Imagine in the moment of all kinds of horrors to bring down the degree of heat. This method may be working, but not effective: while you imagine negative scenarios, then spoil the impression of himself. If a woman makes love, she imagines in her head pictures aimed at increasing arousal, and the man at this point concentrates on the most negative scenarios.

Someone advises to concentrate on your other body parts - big toes, for example, and diligently draw infinity signs with them. This might work if you claim to be a multi-tasking Emperor Caesar.

This rule also works at times when you need to maintain an erection, and when there is no more patience. "The basic mistake of all men: straining the internal muscles in the pelvic area," notes the sexologist.

Kegel exercises have long been popular, with them you train the pubococcygeal muscles (tensing and relaxing). The technique is simple: imagine that you need to stop the jet suddenly. Do this the next time you go to the toilet, and the muscles that tense up are the ones you need to train .When you learn to control the pubococcygeal muscles clearly, you can move on to serious training: tense and hold for a count of 10, then relax. Do approaches of 10 repetitions. The exercise will increase control and help you stay in bed longer. About the effectiveness of this method say British colleagues: "A 2005 study showed that 75 percent of men improved erectile function after doing Kegel exercises. In another study, Italian researchers found that 61 percent of men were cured of premature ejaculation by restoring pelvic floor muscle function."

With any abnormality or suspicion, you should start investigating organic causes: what's wrong with your circulation, hormones, cholesterol, are your blood vessels working properly? The duration of intercourse is affected by testosterone levels (the higher, the longer), the presence of bad habits (the less, the longer), the percentage of physical activity (the lower, the faster) and many more indicators that can cause PE.