Sexologist Shares Tips On How To Restore Sex Drive In A Long-Term Marriage

First of all, it is affected by hormonal levels. This is relevant for both men and women. It is important to remember that attraction decreases with age under the influence of a decrease in the natural level of testosterone. An equally important factor in the presence of attraction is a healthy psychological and emotional climate in the couple. If there is dissatisfaction with the partner, conflict situations in the couple, there is no place for attraction at all

Attraction depends on sexual constitution, which can be high in both men and women. Therefore, it is not only a matter of hormone levels. They are important, but not decisive. As for testosterone levels, they must be in balance - increased testosterone levels in women lead to decreased levels of estrogen - female sex hormones. Men should have more testosterone and women should have more estrogen. That being said, testosterone must be in sufficient quantities for this attraction to occur. However, there are other factors that contribute to a decrease in attraction, "Bodily, emotional, psychological and external factors. People are now consulting psychiatrists who are prescribing antidepressants to their patients that lead to decreased cravings. Few doctors actually say that these pills will have an effect on your sex drive. 

You should also remember that among the influencing factors: stress, depression and crisis. Before you start treatment, you need to understand what factors have influenced the decrease in this attraction. If a person can not answer the question on his own, it is worth going to a specialist. The expert advises the couple to talk through all the moments that occur between them and take into account the advice:

Do not blame the partner. Talk to your partner not from the position of: "it's your fault" or "it's your fault", but from the position of: "I see that something has changed. I'd like to make sense of this situation, to help you and myself figure things out."

Support the attraction with curiosity about each other, share fantasies, desires. Often, when intimacy disappears in a couple, physicality disappears as well. There is no kissing, no hugging, no touching, no flirting. That is, the story remains in the heads of many that kissing and hugging are always foreplay, but this is not true. One is independent of the other.

No matter if there is intimacy in a couple or not, bodily intimacy should always be there. If there are any accumulated resentments in a couple, it is necessary to talk about them, because it affects the attraction. It is necessary to make it a habit to talk about the moments that bother you, not to keep silent, to share emotions and sensations.