WHY I LOST MY BEAUTIFUL ORGASM AND HOW I GOT IT BACK

As with everything that gets worse little by little, in some fragmentary moments you feel that something is wrong, but you ignore it and move on. Until the next time you notice it. Then the next one. Then you find that more and more often you find that something is wrong. It's like hair loss – you see that more and more hair remains on the brush, but your anxiety comes only when you have to bend your elastic five times instead of the usual two.

 

I'll share something personal – when I'm playing alone, my first orgasm is always the WOW. Shattering, sweating, screaming, he's all that. The ones after it are nice, I can get them for hours, but no one is as liberating and cool as the first one, so I always look forward to it. Well, one day I had stepped so hard towards him – and... Something didn't work out. I felt it in my genitals, but it seemed to be isolated – the rest of my body hardly reacted. It was quite disappointing, but I put it in temporary unavailability. What's the big deal, an orgasm. Next time, about tomorrow, it will work, I told myself then.

 

The truth is, when something is wrong, your body tells itself. In general, everything is – our organisms are very good at telling each other when something is wrong. However, we are very good at not hearing what they say to us and ignoring these signals repeatedly. At least we do it until we realize that things really aren't right.

 

Four or five times it happened to me that my first orgasm was not WOW to find out that something was lame. And this happens in, so to speak, an "isolated environment" – when you are alone, alone with yourself and indulging only in yourself. I was having an orgasm... But I didn't feel it and my whole activity became meaningless. At some point, just like a person who loses their hair, I wondered – well, what's wrong with me and why don't I feel that good feeling anymore? I used to have it, but now I didn't?

 

I dug on the internet. People there said I masturbated too much and I just lost my sensitivity. That it sounds logical – it is, but I have been on such a "regime" for several years and so far I have not had any problems... And 1-2 times a week is not so often. That wasn't the reason, I was sure. I decided not to stop what I do in general and just observe myself – what I think, what I do, what I feel. To stop ignoring my body and hearing what it is actually telling me. The conclusions I reached were:

 

1. My brain does not stop working – I found that I have been in a slightly more stressful period for some time now and therefore worry unnecessarily during my personal time. I play music, undress and go to bed, but instead of fantasizing about some cool man, my brain remains clinging to my daily commitments and I think about work emails even while my vibrator is working!

 

2. Having a problem leads to worry about this problem – why can't I? Why don't I feel it right? Why isn't it so nice? Why, why, why? Constantly analyzing the situation actually makes things worse and leads me down a spiral that I am increasingly clinging to the idea that I can't get what I want.

 

3. The toy does not work for me – the two vibrators I used as if they were too weak, one of them I was even tired of. I needed something new and exciting, as well as a battery replacement. 

These three seemingly trivial reasons prevented me from having my cool orgasm. Once I had identified the totality of problems, it was time to try to make things right. Here's what I did:

 

1. I stopped playing during the week. I felt that on weekdays I was too overwhelmed by thoughts about everyday life to relax – at least for the moment. I left my private time for Friday, Saturday or Sunday when I was completely free.

 

2. I accepted that for the moment I can not have a perfect orgasm, and that I do not have to worry because it is not the end of the world.

3. I bought new batteries. It wasn't a good time to invest in a new toy, but at least I had to make sure the old ones worked well. There is nothing more irritating and discouraging than a vibrator who is sure to work as a tractor, and at the same time hear its subtle hum. It's like half an erection.

 

4. I began to lock myself – I found that some of my worries came from constantly listening to see if someone would come or hear me. After all, even if someone finds out what I'm doing – how fatal is it? In order not to worry, I just started locking myself in – everyone has the right to privacy, even when they are not living alone.

5. I began to prepare my atmosphere - if my imagination is in crisis, I have to help it somehow. I prepared my favorite music, warmed the room, sprayed my pillow with a favorite men's perfume. Little things that I would normally miss, now I needed to set me to the required frequency.

 

After a few weeks, I began to feel that the "quality" of the first orgasm began to recover little by little. It didn't happen right away, but what happens in this life at once? With a little desire for relaxation and perseverance, the mental blockade can obviously be "unclogged", so nothing is fatal. Of course, if a woman thinks that there is something more that stops her from enjoying her orgasm, she can always seek professional help. But sometimes the barrier between the genitals and our whole body is located in the head and is caused only by the daily constant stress that our body is not designed to endure...