MASTER AND SLAVE, AND NOT ONLY: THE DIFFERENT ROLES IN BDSM

Dominants are often generalized as people who simply seek control in sexual situations, but there are actually different types of dominant characters and people can often be a combination of them. Some are sadists, enjoying inflicting pain (with the consent of the partner), while others like the ritualistic side of the respective practices; Some want to feel like a teacher or guardian, or to be an authority figure in the life of their subordinate.

This is a fairly broad category, as in general these names are used as a byword for the Dominants. The master or mistress expects a different degree of obedience from his slave – some may treat it as an object, ignoring it when it is not needed, or "train" it so that it satisfies their needs in a timely manner.

Daddy or Mama Dominants has nothing to do with incest fantasies or having sex with minors. This is just a classification for a Home that shows remarkable care for its "Little One". The relationship is not sexual, it's role-playing.

Always a woman, Femdom can have a man or another woman as a slave. Her job is to take on traditionally "male" roles, all the time or only during sex. This can involve humiliating a man, causing him to enter traditionally "female" roles, for example, being penitrated with a penis belt or dressing in women's clothing.

What makes a person submissive? Obedience does not carry equal importance to everyone. It can take many forms (each of which requires trust in the House), but it can be roughly said that it is expressed in servitude, passive sex, acceptance of pain, etc.

Servants spend their time waiting for an order from their Home to make him feel better. They respond instantly (after pre-arrangement – after all, it's a game). Submissives who seek pain are usually not interested in humiliation, they are simply masochists.

A slave is a kind of submission in which the subordinate gives his will to his Master. It is a more all-encompassing form of obedience in which the slave does not set the limits himself—their limits are set by the Master or Mistress. Slaves behave as if they were the "property" of their Home.

The most common pets are pony play, puppy play and kitty play. It may include costumes, masks or accessories such as ears, tails, collars, reins, etc. For the subordinate, the benefit is usually the pleasure of dehumanization and exhibitionism, but sometimes it is simply the pleasure of feeling "untied", unconstrained by people's norms and in the safety of his Owner. Not related to zoophilia.

The little one is an adult who assumes a role similar to that of a pet – they see their Home as a protector and carer, but remain in the role of a person. This power play is often non-sexual, but rather role-playing, and the subordinate expects to be pampered, punished and disciplined by his master, who usually plays the role of Daddy or Mom.

This is a broader category, as it can be found as a practice in all cases of humiliation of a man. The subordinate voluntarily allows himself to be treated as a "woman" – to dress in skirts and thongs, to perform sexual and non-sexual roles, which are often associated with the obsolete roles of the woman. The goal is for a man to be humiliated by being turned into a parody of a woman.

The Keleme or "piss" is a submissive role in which the slave behaves naughtily and purposely violates the commandments of his House. This can be done for attention, to test the master's limits, or to provoke punishment. Usually the reason for the search for this role is in masochism on the part of the subordinate.

In conclusion, it is clear that no two people are exactly alike, nor are there two links between dominant and submissive that are completely identical. You don't have to! Any relationship, whether BDSM or not, involves trust and a desire to communicate to keep both partners happy. And the best thing is when you have the opportunity to find out what gives you the greatest pleasure!