The Curious Link Between Arguments and Passionate Encounters
Date: 2023-11-24 Author: Dima Zakharov Categories: BLOG 18+
Rekindling Flames: The Aftermath of a Quarrel
It's not uncommon for a heated argument between a man and a woman to escalate into passionate and fervent intimacy. Why is it that after mutual insults and hurtful words, the desire to engage in love-making suddenly arises? There are specific psychological mechanisms that ignite this desire within us during such circumstances.
A Renewed Vigor
Conflict inherently involves aggression, often intertwined with sexual desire. The higher the emotional intensity during relationship disputes, the stronger the arousal might be for those engaged in the argument. They might not desire each other emotionally, but there’s a considerable chance they desire merely physical intimacy.
Some psychologists refer to this phenomenon as the "Nero Syndrome." It's believed that the scandalous emperor used to vehemently scold his mistresses before engaging in intimacy, aiming to incite aggression within himself, and subsequently, sexual desire. However, rumors abound that despite his methods, he wasn’t much of a lover.
Finding Equilibrium
Conflict allows individuals with different temperaments to "balance" their energies. For someone with a fiery disposition, an argument helps to "let off steam," whereas a calmer partner, experiencing a surge of aggression, might get aroused more intensely compared to a regular situation with a steady emotional background.
Moderation Is Key
If you're accustomed to lashing out at each other in the heat of an argument, you risk accumulating an overwhelming number of unresolved conflicts and unexpressed grievances, which can be detrimental to the relationship.
Passion ignites passion, but psychologists advise engaging in intimate encounters only after some resolution has been reached through dialogue. Remember: sex doesn't solve problems; it merely offers a temporary escape. Once the emotional storm subsides, you'll still face the difficulties you thought you'd escaped from.
