Spice Up Your Sex Life with 7 Easy Tips

Feeling shy about discussing intimacy with your partner? Start with text messages. Writing can be easier than speaking. Ask if they have some free time at work and send a romantic text. Begin with compliments about their sexuality and describe what you'd like to explore together. Gradually build up the heat, igniting passion. If appropriate, consider sending a revealing photo after giving a heads-up. This anticipation will have your partner rushing home eagerly. Remember the Prelude - It's like having a cake without icing. Quality sex requires a prelude. It’s the warm-up in both music and intimacy. Just as musicians use it to warm up their instruments and captivate the audience's interest, in intimate relationships, it's for the psychological and physical arousal of partners, triggering hormonal processes necessary for quality intimacy. Men may need around 10 minutes of physical foreplay, while women require at least 20. Show care for your partner and allocate at least 15 minutes for cuddles, kisses, caresses, and stimulation of erogenous zones. This sets the stage for an unforgettable experience.

Trying role-playing can add spice to your sexual relationship, especially for those seeking novelty. In these games, you can be anyone you desire without infidelity. Explore your sexual fantasies in various roles: strangers who just met, checked into a hotel, and engaged in sex; strippers, waiters, royalty, or ordinary people—let your imagination run wild. Do this with mutual consent, immerse yourself in the roles, and ensure about half an hour of unforgettable foreplay and intense sex. When engaging in sex, never worry about how you look or strive for perfection, as suggested by Gestalt therapist Bridget Martel in the book "Sexuality, Love, and Gestalt". Such thoughts lead to tension, affecting the experience negatively.

Looking to spice things up with your spouse? Go on a romantic dinner and openly flirt. Changing the location of your sexual encounters, watching an erotic movie together, or gifting each other intimate presents can make your sex life more vibrant. To make sex brighter, enhance the warmth in your relationship because sex doesn't start in the bedroom. Invite your partner for a romantic dinner, show intimate gestures: place your hand on their knee, embrace, steal glances at their neckline, cover their hand with yours, and share a witty but not vulgar joke about relationships. If your wife responds positively, she'll start flirting back: making eye contact, arching her back, licking her lips, touching herself, adjusting her hair. Non-verbal seduction will intensify passions to a point where champagne and dinner will feel left out.

It's convenient to have sex in the bedroom on a comfortable schedule. But if convenience no longer excites you, try spontaneous sex in different places. Kids not at home? Perfect! It's an excellent reason to make love in the kitchen, on the couch with comfy cushions in the living room, hallway, or balcony. Expand your options and do it in a hotel (a perfect follow-up to a romantic dinner), at the cottage, in nature (avoid ant hills), or in the car (remember to park). An extreme and unusual setting ignites passion and brings a bunch of new sensations.