SEX AND EXCESS WEIGHT
Date: 2023-06-29 Author: Karina Ziganova Categories: BLOG 18+
However, there are not so many people with Barbie bodies, and the spectrum is wide - from a few "extra" kilograms to quite a few accumulated ones. But we all need sex. What about meeting basic needs?
You can't fool us - we all know the stereotypes associated with excess weight and sex. The truth is that
1. When it comes to sex, few people want their partner to look like a Vogue model; and
2. Some people are very, very fond of overweight partners.
The fact is that obese people have sex no less than everyone else. Sometimes more! Some men and women prefer their partner to be bigger, and there's nothing wrong with that. The BBW (big beautiful women) and BHM (big handsome men) categories are some of the most popular!
However, even after finding their soul mate, many overweight people face a certain psychological barrier, namely - are they attractive enough for their beloved?
1. You need to let go of the thought that your partner will "understand" how fat you are.
He already knows it. And he wants you. That's all you should be interested in. Give up the desire to deform your body just to stand in a more beautiful corner or hide something - these attempts only distract you and reduce pleasure. Relax and enjoy what is happening
2. People who have sex with big partners often have sex with them BECAUSE of the way their body looks, not IN SPITE of it.
At first, this idea is a little difficult to perceive because everything around us tells us that being not only fat, but even a little fat or out of shape is bad, ugly, etc., but above all that it is not SEXY.
In fact, sex appeal is a collection of factors, not something that can only be determined by physique. Sexual attractiveness is confidence, radiance, intimacy, behavior, ability to communicate, dignity. If there is "chemistry" between you and your partner, nothing can stop you. Yes, appearance is important, but it is not an independent criterion on which your relationship depends. Happiness is not inversely proportional to weight. There are many weak people who are not happy sexually and in life because they lack something else.
The most common problem for people suffering from
obesity is that their halves cannot support their weight. Fortunately, however, there are enough poses that allow you to do this without problems!
Dog pose - suitable for both obese men and obese women. Add a fluffy pillow on which your partner will lie and penetration will be easy and comfortable, as well as allow you to stimulate the G-spot.
Standing – Sex in an upright position again locks the weight in a place different from the body of the lighter partner. It is also very intimate, as the partners are face to face.
Woman on top – If a man has a fuller physique, a woman on top is one of the best options. Not only does it give the woman a lot of control during sex, but there are also various variations that can be performed in a standard way or in a "reverse rider" way where the woman turns her back on her partner.
Butterfly – For this pose, the woman must be on a surface that is high enough to be at the level of the man's penis. The woman lies on her back, raises her legs up (like butterfly wings), and the man stands in front of her and penetrates, holding on to her hips. Again, a pose suitable for both women and men with fuller bodies.
Eat Three things that will make sex easier and more enjoyable for overweight people are fluffy pillows, a durable mattress that does not sink and a lot of lubricant. Pillows can help with more difficult poses, the mattress will provide additional stability to the base, and lubrication will make it easier to penetrate where there is more flesh.
Remember that what is between you and your partner does not depend on the opinion of the outside world. It's important to feel good, enjoy your body in all forms, but also remember to take care of your health - this way you'll enjoy sex for much longer!
