Open Relationships as a Marriage Savior: A Couple's Story of Mutual Infidelity Agreements

Recently, we have published a series of stories about the challenging consequences of infidelity in relationships, often leading to divorce. In response to these publications, we received a letter from an anonymous author who shared how she and her partner reached the decision that infidelity in their marriage could be permissible. They established their own rules, thereby saving their union. This story is presented anonymously to our readers.

This story began a decade ago when the husband and wife met, despite both being in other relationships. Each had their own partner, and their lives were entangled webs of love's experiences. However, their meeting turned their understanding of love and relationships upside down.

Interestingly, both partners had histories of infidelity in their previous relationships, and perhaps this understanding played a key role in their decision not to turn infidelity into a catastrophe. After a series of complex events and separations, they decided to get married. However, along with this, the question arose of how to maintain freshness and intimacy in their marriage.

In discussions about love and sex, they concluded that these aspects of relationships can exist independently of each other. They realized that sex without love can also bring pleasure and that the desire to occasionally experience sex with other people does not necessarily mean a lack of love for one's partner. This understanding became the foundation for the decision to try an experiment, which involved occasionally sleeping with other people without building parallel relationships.

Opting for such an unconventional approach, they did not know how they would feel, but they were confident that their friendship would withstand it. They engaged in dating, flirting, and intimate relationships with other people without violating their primary union. And, according to them, this not only did not harm their marriage but, on the contrary, gave it freshness and novelty.