Intimate Toys in Relationships: Sexologist's Advice and the Importance of Partner Consent
Date: 2023-09-22 Author: Dima Zakharov Categories: NEWS 18+, BLOG 18+
Intimate toys are a topic that can cause discomfort and misunderstanding for many people, but they have existed for thousands of years. Ancient phallic imitations date back 28,000 years. However, despite such a long history of development, the use of sex toys remains taboo for many. To delve into this topic, we turned to a sexologist-psychotherapist who shared their knowledge and advice.
Individual Choice
The most crucial aspect of using intimate toys is your own desire and fantasies. There are no universal markers that indicate the need for using sex toys. As the specialist notes, it should be interesting and intriguing for each person.
"The most important thing is our fantasies. In other words, the accessory should at least appeal to you and arouse excitement."
However, if you feel the desire to try something new but don't know where to start, a sexologist can help. They will provide advice and recommendations on what to pay attention to. Additionally, you can consult reviews or advice from sex bloggers, but always remember to turn to reliable sources of information.
Not a Substitute but a Supplement
The sexologist emphasizes that sex toys cannot replace sex with a living person. Real interaction and feedback with a partner are impossible with toys.
"A sex toy won't compliment us, won't embrace us, and won't warm us. At least not for now."
They can complement your intimate life, bring new fantasies and variety, but they cannot replace real relationships. It's important to understand that intimate toys are just tools that can make sex more exciting.
Enhancement or Disruption?
Intimate toys can bring diversity to a relationship, but they can also create tension, especially if not discussed with a partner. The sexologist emphasizes the importance of open discussion and mutual desire to incorporate toys into your sexual life, but not insisting on them.
"Mutual attentiveness is important. It's better to discuss in advance when and how these items will be used: it shouldn't be an unpleasant surprise that spoils the impression of sex."
Intimate toys can help diversify intimate activities, but only if both partners agree and are comfortable with the idea. It's essential to discuss your fantasies and the role of toys in them to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings.
